How to be successful isn’t something that one can search online and find a simple answer to. Sure, there are lots of results out there, but everyone’s different, so how we measure success is arbitrary since it changes from person to person.
But one thing’s true no matter who you are: success comes once you decide it, and that can be because you just landed the name and number of that cute person at the bar, or you just got a big promotion after killin’ it at work for the past few years. How to be successful in your life is all that matters.
Far too often, though, we take failures as, well, failures, and don’t see them as a way of being successful. For those people who get down in the dumps because an idea of theirs got shot down, or they weren’t able to accomplish a goal they had, it’s all about how you learn from those experiences that define a situation of being successful or not.
Since it’s important to always be learning, and growing and being better today than you were yesterday and better tomorrow than you are today, here are some ways on how to be successful even if you completely, utterly and miserably failed. Keep your head up, champ, because you’ve got this.
You’re Learning How To Be Successful By Constantly Improving Yourself
Many people look at failure as something bad, but, you know what, it’s actually something good — as long as you take it that way. That’s to say that when you do fail, you don’t let it cripple you, but, instead, use it as a learning experience and a springboard to what you can change moving forward.
I’ll tell you what, I fail about 1,000 times every single day, but I don’t necessarily focus on those things as much as when I fail at something big. For instance, I might email somebody and never hear back. Guess what? That’s a failure, because I’m being told “no” from someone. I may misspell a word while typing. Guess what? That’s a failure, too. I might even go for a run and not be as fast as the person I’m running with. You know what I’m about to say; fail.
A good friend told me that your focus becomes your reality, and if you focus on all the failures you have in life — which is a pretty shitty way to live — then you’re bound to be down in the dumps when you do fail. But learning how to be successful is about taking those experiences as opportunities to better yourself for the next time.
You Have A Plan And Goals, And You Won’t Stop Till You Complete Them
Similar to the above, learning how to be successful is all about planning. We know that nothing comes easy in life, and, if you think it does, well, sorry to burst your bubble, but you’re in for some harsh reality once you realize shit isn’t simple. However, that doesn’t mean you can’t make it easier on yourself.
Having a plan and writing out goals will help you stay on track. Hell, if I didn’t put together an edit schedule for Shut Up & Hustle, there’s a good chance I wouldn’t be as organized when it came to actually getting the work done. Sure, the idea sounds great, but how’s the execution coming along? It’s going to take work, and you need to be prepared to put in the work to make it work.
Your plan might not always go as you think, but if you have a goal to focus on and aren’t afraid of taking risks along the way, you’ll get there soon enough if you’re really passionate about it. Just remember to dig deep, adapt to things around you and work smart. If you do that, you’ll learn how to be successful at most things you do.
How To Be Successful Is About Using Your Strengths To Improve Your Weaknesses
You might be a kick-ass artist, but miserable at interacting and/or selling your art. You might be incredible at sales, but not so great at managing or mentoring people who work under you. How can those things change? It all starts with you.
Learning how to be successful at things means taking what you’re already good at and applying them to other situations that you might not be as strong at. In essence, the more you use those “signature skills” of yours, the better you’ll feel, the more confident you’ll be and the more likely you’ll learn from others.
You’ll Never Learn How To Be Successful By Playing It Safe
Sorry to be the one to tell you this, but you’re not getting to where you want to be without taking some risks. You think Bill Gates was born to be a billionaire? No, he learned how to be successful by taking risks and gambling on himself; the rest just sort of worked itself out.
There’s no such thing as the “perfect life,” and, just when everything’s going great and you think your problems are behind you, boom, you get a phone call that something happened and it instantly knocks you off that high.
You’re supposed to fail in order to improve yourself, and, by playing it safe, you’re only hurting yourself in the long run because you’re holding yourself back from what could be behind the door right in front of you — you’re just too afraid to knock it down to see what it is. It’s time to change that mentality.
Never Allowing Yourself To Be Too High Or Too Low Helps You Show Gratitude
I’ve got the No. 3 tattooed on my left hand, so a lot of people wonder what the hell it really means? Is it my lucky number? Does it signify something with my family? Was it just a drunken mistake that I regret? In fact, it’s none of the above.
The No. 3 I’ve got tatted on me represents balance: Never get too high, never get too low, just stay right in the middle. Think of it as a canoe. Lean right, you tip. Lean left, you tip. Stay centered, you’re smooth sailing. How you live your life should be the same way.
When learning how to be successful, when you take the good with the bad and the bad with the good, you’ll learn gratitude. Once you realize how lucky you are to have the things you do, the people around you and the ability to stay centered, you’ll be happier, help inspire others and find that being successful isn’t directly tied to getting a giant paycheck every couple weeks.